Why do this?

Decluttering and organizing is not an end in and of itself. It is a path to enriching your life by being able to do the things that matter most to you. When your physical “things”, when your home, office, car, garage, etc. are decluttered and organized, you make better decisions as to what comes into your life, your home, your office. You get clear on what is most important so that only those things that you love and that serve your highest purpose get that important real-estate. I live my life that way and I want to spread a message of hope and support. The hope is that you will see how it is possible to live a more peaceful, less stressful, less overwhelmed life. My goal is to help you spend your time doing what matters most instead of decluttering and organizing all of the things that aren’t getting you anywhere in life.

Looking for Simplicity in Life

I was told about this book by an acquaintance of mine so I read it….in about 30 minutes. And then I did the activities. It was simple!

The reason I am writing about this book is that I’m finding life to be overwhelming for a lot of people (I include myself in this group). And sometimes I think people need to get back to basics in order to re-set and get things back on track. This book is good for that.

In the introduction, the author – Brooke McAlary – says, “For most people, the journey towards simplicity starts with decluttering their stuff clearing out wardrobes, or sorting through books, photos and decades of sentimental items. As they look around their home in frustration, they declare, ‘That’s it! I’m buying fewer shoes/clothes/tennis racquets/toys/books/CDs. I’m sick of clearing this stuff out!’ But fast-forward twelve months and you’ll find many of them are back at it, grumbling about how they would prefer to be watching TV, relaxing, drinking a beer or playing with their kids. Instead, they’re clearing out the garage again.”

The chapters in the book deal with single-tasking, getting down morning and evening rhythms (not routines), brain dumping, three things, gratitude and tilting. I explain these below:

  • Single-tasking – immersing yourself in a task you do regularly and not doing anything or thinking about anything else
  • Rhythms – identify needs and wants for mornings and evenings which sets the tone for the day in terms of things that should be done
  • Brain dumping – writing out all kinds of things that are swirling around in your head, possibly keeping you up at night, that you get out on paper
  • Three things – if you get nothing else done in a day, write out three things that are most important and get those done. If you get more done, awesome.
  • Gratitude – while you’re writing down the brain dump and three things, you might as well write down things you are grateful for. It helps to re-wire your brain for looking at the positive in life.
  • Tilting – the opposite of  work/lifebalance. When there are things that come up or take more of your time, deal with them and don’t beat yourself up about the other things that you can’t get to. For example, your child is sick. Take care of your child and don’t worry so much about the dishes. It’s kind of like three things – if you get more done, great, but there is only so much time in a day so priorities trump balance.

The book is an easy and quick read. It’s a good place to start if you are looking for small steps to get where you need to be. Here’s a link to the book: Destination Simple

 

Present Over Perfect – part 2

 

If you haven’t read my last post (part 1), read that first.

Another chapter that the author, Shauna Niequist, writes about is called Simplicity. I am all about simplicity whenever possible so I was eager to read this chapter. To sum it up, she discusses how simplifying her material possessions gives her great joy, helps her make better decisions and she sees only things she loves. Her energy is free to do other things rather than decide which one of thirty outfits to wear or to buy meaningful gifts for others instead of just picking out something because it’s on sale.

“As I’ve been aching for simplicity inside myself – in my heart, in my spirit – I’ve been surprised to find how much simplifying my material world has created space not just around me, but inside me.”

“For some people, getting dressed is a delight, a way to tell the world who they are, a creative and inspiring process. Some people get a little charge of energy from the pure variety of what they buy and put together and wear. I’m finding that I get a little charge of energy from knowing exactly what I love and what I don’t, and being clear about the two. I’m more inspired by a near-uniform, a narrow set of parameters that make me feel most like myself.  I love wearing black, white, gray, and blue. I love classic shapes, stripes, jeans. And I love the flash of metallics, like gold sandals and jewelry. I find such delight and energy in this newly simple way of dressing – that actually I”d been practicing for a long time, only now my closet reflected it.”

“In the kitchen, in the closet, and throughout the rest of the house, I kept finding that the more I let go of, the happier I was. It almost seemed like the less stuff there was in our home, the more freely I could breathe, the more deeply I was able to think.”

“The other benefit I’m finding in these newer, narrower parameters about what I wear and what fills my cabinets is that I’m finding I make better decisions when I make fewer decisions. When I open my closet and see only things I love, and relatively few of them, when I open my cabinets and see nothing but white plates, those are just that many fewer decisions to make in a day that always, invariably, make that day just a couple ticks easier, and I’ll take it.”

“I find myself filling my cart and my shopping bag differently these days, too – do I want to manage this? Clean this? Find a place for this? Will this bring me ongoing joy, or will it be just another thing to store, just another thing to clutter up my mind and home? I’m bringing fewer and fewer things into our home, and I’m shopping for other people in new ways, too – what are timeless, useful gifts, instead of easy-to-pick-up knickknacks? Or even better, what experiences can we share, instead of what items can I fill their home with?”

“How we live matters, and what you choose to own will shape your life, whether you choose to admit it or not. Let’s live lightly, freely, courageously, surrounded only by what brings joy, simplicity, and beauty.”

If you are interested in the book, here’s an Amazon link.

Present Over Perfect – part 1

 

I was told to read this book by a friend who is also my client and I’m glad she told me about it. (Disclaimer: the author of this book talks a lot about how Christianity is a big part of her life. I am not trying to convert or push or judge as far as religion goes and that is not my purpose for this post. The parts of this book I will discuss here are about decluttering and organizing.)

The author, Shauna Niequist, uses stories, poems, everyday language to describe what has changed in her life. She was basically a go-getter, type A, nonstop action type of person. She worked hard, played hard and had little time to stop and think about where her life was going. When she did stop, she realized many things she was unhappy with that made her slow down and take stock of her life.

One of the stories left an impression on me. The chapter is called The Man in the Tuxedo. It is about a man who was dying of cancer and left a video of himself to his family and friends. The video of this man wearing a tuxedo and giving a toast would be played at his adult children’s weddings as his way to toast them even if he wasn’t alive. At the same time, the author herself, Shauna, was going through a situation in which she had to make a big decision regarding taking on an opportunity through work. Shauna had asked for advice from a friend about whether she should take the opportunity or not. The friend then showed her the video of the man in the tuxedo. Shauna then realized that the “opportunity” she had worked for for so long was just more work in disguise. She declined the opportunity and was told graciously that another project was waiting for her if and when she wanted it. Her relief at knowing that she hadn’t obliterated her career as well as knowing she could be home more with her family was something of a turning-around of her life and priorities. The man in the tuxedo taught her that, in the end, her family and people closest to her were more important than working more and harder.

I almost feel like I need to make another disclaimer – this book isn’t about everyone quitting their jobs or not saying yes to opportunities in life. It is about knowing what you really want out of life and making sure you’re on track with it. It goes along with my tagline and motto – Make Room in Your Life for What Really Matters.

And that is why I not only declutter and organize people’s homes, cars, offices, etc. but I want to know what matters to my clients because those are the things that they should hold on to. Everything else is just shiny or new or fun-for-the-moment or a gift you can’t bring yourself to get rid of. Everything else really isn’t important when all is said and done. We can’t LOVE everything. That is reserved for only the few truly special things in life.

If you are interested in the book, here’s an Amazon link.

Staying on Top of the Daily Snail Mail

Staying on top of snail mail and the clutter it creates is at the top of the list for many as a tedious and loathed task.  But making time to address what arrives in your mailbox each day can mean the difference between a daunting pile of junk or a neat and organized must-deal-with pile.  Follow these steps daily to help keep both mail and clutter under control.

Make Checking Your Mailbox a Daily Mission

Whether the mail piles up in the box or on your counter, it will still be there for you to deal with.  Take a few minutes each day and establish a routine to deal with anything that arrives in your mailbox. Once you bring mail into your home, it should only take a few seconds to sort and organize. I use these three categories when sorting through my mail: recycle, requires action or read.

Recycle

On any given day, your mailbox is probably filled with junk you don’t need to keep.  Grocery ads, credit card offers, solicitations, and catalogs accumulate quickly.  Stop the influx of junk mail into your home by recycling any unwanted mail immediately.  Check out these resources for help in halting junk mail completely:  catalogchoice.org, directmail.com, or ecocycle.org.

Requires Action

Place bills that need to be paid, invitations that require RSVPs or anything else that needs action from you in a designated spot.  Bills can be dealt with once a month, while invitations and similar items should be addressed as soon as you can consult your calendar.

Read

We subscribe to magazines to read about hobbies, current events or any information that makes us happy.  But when those magazines start piling up and creating clutter, it may be time to rethink the number of subscriptions coming into your home.  I suggest paring down to three subscriptions and making sure you truly enjoy what’s being delivered to your house each month or week.  Once you are finished reading a magazine, it’s time to recycle it or pass the copy on to someone else who might enjoy reading it.

Establishing these habits to deal with mail and the clutter that it can quickly create will go a long way in saving both precious time and energy.  And you may just have a bit more time to read those precious magazines.

 

Issues Surrounding Decluttering and Organizing

The before-and-after photos in this post are showing how small changes can affect how things look in your home. In each set of photos, you will see that excess “stuff” was gotten rid of to make way for the possessions that my clients actually wanted.  It was amazing to see how many things people were living with that they didn’t know, didn’t remember having or didn’t care to have anymore.

Before:

After:

Ways that Organization and Decluttering Helped Clients:

  • Time to devote to kids
  • More efficient in business
  • Save time by not looking for the “thing you just had”
  • Ease painful memories
  • Utilize current space for optimization and saving time
  • Organize craft areas to spend more time creating, not looking for supplies
  • Better decision-making on what comes into your home

Before:

After:

How Do You Feel About Your Organization?

  • “But, I’m not a hoarder…”
  • “I have things under control…”
  • “I am constantly reminded of _______ and it reminds me of painful memories.”
  • “I am embarrassed to have people over to my house.”
  • “I can’t find things I know I have.”
  • “I don’t have time to get organized.”
  • “I can’t keep it under control once it’s organized.”

Before:

After:

What Are Your Fears of Decluttering?

  • I will discard something I’ll later regret
  • I will be judged for my clutter or lack of organization
  • Getting rid of something means I don’t like that object
  • Getting rid of gifts people have given me is rude
  • The more I have of _____, the more people will respect me and think I am successful
  • I have so many things, I don’t know where to begin
  • My time is better spent on other (important) things

and more! I hear almost all of these concerns as well as the good things that have come out of decluttering and organizing.

It is a process and taking steps toward it is not always easy. Contact me if you need help!

The Art of Discarding

This is my craft room before I did even more decluttering. I should have taken a photo of the insides of the storage bins. Alas, this is my “cluttered” craft area. I’m hoping to get paint on the walls and spruce it up more at some point. I’ll be very excited to share that “after” photo!

I read this book a few weeks ago and liked it a lot. It was the book that inspired Marie Kondo to write The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

For me, hearing over and over that decluttering is really the most important aspect to being well-organized has helped me immensely. My decision-making is so much better because of the advice from this book. Inspired to declutter even more, I spent at least 12 hours on my scrapbook room last weekend. Most people who see my home think that there’s nothing else I could possibly get rid of but that’s not true.

We all have clutter, even me, and it piles up when you aren’t thinking about it. This book made me think about it and recycle, donate and throw away things I truly didn’t need and would never use. I know this because I hadn’t used them in years and when stickers have lost their “sticky”, it’s time to get rid of them. (Not all – I can use Glue Dots on the un-sticky ones that I love.) I had ugly scrapbook paper, embellishments that were tacky or too bumpy to fit inside the sleeve of a clear scrapbook refill page, etc.

So now for some practical advice……this book’s Table of Contents alone will tell you what you need to know. In Part One, here are the 10 attitudes to help you get rid of things:

  1. Don’t keep it “for now”
  2. Avoid “temporary” storage – decide now!
  3. “Sometime” never comes
  4. “Really convenient!” to somebody else – irritating junk to me
  5. Nothing is sacred
  6. If you’ve got it, use it
  7. Storage and organization methods are not the solution
  8. “Maybe this could go…”
  9. Don’t worry that you’ll get rid of something you shouldn’t
  10. Don’t aim for perfection

Then, Part Two give you 10 strategies for discarding. Here they are:

  1. Don’t look – throw!
  2. Chuck it there and then
  3. Discard when you exceed a certain amount
  4. Discard after a certain period of time
  5. Regular discarding
  6. Discard things even if they can still be used
  7. Establish discarding criteria
  8. Have plenty of disposal routes
  9. Start small
  10. Who disposes of what? Decide responsibilities

There is a Part Three that talks about alternatives to throwing things away for people who have a hard time throwing things in the garbage.

One of the things that I found very interesting was when she talked about getting rid of things that can still be used. This might confound you but, yes, you can and sometimes should get rid of certain things that might have some use or purpose. The examples the author uses is clothes, books and magazines. She says, “The belief that things should be used until their potential is exhausted is a powerful one. People seem to think that if they keep something, there’ll be the opportunity at some point for this potential to be used.” “But it’s better not to bother about whether you use things to their full potential. It may well be the case that they could be used more, but they can still be disposed of. Accept this and you’ll save yourself a lot of worry.”

I could go on and on but I’ll stop there. Again, the book’s Table of Contents says it all.

Thanks for reading!!